What Reviewers are Saying
“What a great resource this will be for a growing community of caregivers who are adopting this role for the first time. So glad you did this and a big congratulations!!!”
“Great topic. It’s not easy for the parent to get used to new responsibilities and ways of doing things after so long, and it’s not feasible for an adult child to be able to maintain things as they were before. A complicated dance to accomplish a new balance.”
Debra Hallisey explains: Why I wrote this book
“You’ve learned so much, you should find a way to share it with people.”
My mother, with this simple statement started me down a path I never expected to take and one that has profoundly changed my life.
During the last five years as my mother’s caregiver, I have learned lessons I want to share with you. The most important one being that becoming mom’s caregiver changed our mother/daughter relationship, our ‘contract’ if you will. This idea of a relationship contract resounded with my client’s and readers of my blog. Because it helps us to recognize there IS an unspoken contract, while inviting caregivers to do the hard-intentional work to co-create a new one.
As caregivers we face the same issues. How do you have the hard conversations? How do you deal with all the emotions that surface? What is the best way to deal with the expectations of other people and set needed boundaries? How do I say yes to help, ask for help and get my loved one to buy into help? How can I build a support system that is just for me, the caregiver?
This book is written to help you face these issues. There are worksheets and example conversations starters at the end of every chapter that will help you to co-create a caregiver relationship contract, even if the person you are caring for is a spouse, child, other family member or friend. This book and the tools in it are designed to help you in your caregiver role, whether you live near or far, and it will help you if your role is to support someone who is a caregiver.