I hated my mother’s wheelchair. It was heavy, cumbersome and crazy difficult to get in and out of my SUV. I was worried that the time was coming when I would not be able to handle it by myself and it would curtail our visits to family, going for a ride or to dinner. Yet, it was this wheelchair that set off my first major meltdown after mom died. I handed off the wheelchair … [Read more...]
Sorrow and Joy. So often these two emotions live side-by-side in our life as caregivers.
You may have seen my social media posts last week about the death of my mother. Her passing was swift, peaceful and completely unexpected. I am grateful that during the month leading up to her death we celebrated two baby showers, my birthday and Thanksgiving, being with family we had not seen since before the pandemic. What I did not share until now, is that she died the … [Read more...]
Matt and Lindsay Fit the Definition of Sandwich Generation Caregivers to a T.
Lindsay was at home with their young children and Matt was working when within a span of six months, each became a caregiver to a parent with dementia; Lindsay to her father, Steve, and Matt to his mother, Rosemary. Life changed as they took on ever-increasing responsibility for the day-to-day life of their parents. For a period, Rosemary and Steve were able to live on their … [Read more...]
Preserving her mother’s dignity while supporting her to live her best life.
One Dementia Caregiver's Story. In writing my new book “A Relationship Contract for Dementia Caregivers”, I had the opportunity to interview caregivers who care or cared for family members living with dementia. The lessons learned are ones of hope, love and joy. This is an excerpt of Patti’s story. When you talk to Patti, the love for her mom is palpable in her voice and … [Read more...]
What Is A “CARE COUPLE”?
Who makes up a care couple? When an elderly parent falls ill, falls down or is diagnosed with dementia, the adult child is all too often thrown into crisis mode to figure out who to call, what to do and where to turn. It does not have to happen this way. And you don’t have to do it alone. If we take the time to pay attention and put a plan in place, we are able to reduce … [Read more...]