Care for the Caregiver: Caregiving Changes Relationships
How do you navigate the minefield of new roles and expectations?
In her book “Your Caregiver Relationship Contract”, Author Debra Hallisey shares what she has learned being her mother’s caregiver. “When I became mom’s caregiver, it changed our mother/daughter relationship in ways neither one of us expected. During these last five years, we have been able to co-create a new relationship, a new contract if you will. Co-creating a new relationship requires recognizing unspoken expectations, yours and your elder. It means having hard conversations and setting boundaries that use language your aging loved one will “hear.” It requires understanding how they live their lives in order to put together a support network that will help both of you. It is hard work, but well worth the effort.”
Workshop: Co-Creating a New Caregiver Relationship Contract
Tips, tricks and worksheets that will help
Co-creating a new contract means being intentional about understanding your loved one’s wants and needs and them understanding yours. Using the worksheets and questions found at the end of each chapter of “Your Caregiver Relationship Contract”, we practice techniques that will help navigate the minefield of caregiving.
- To understand why language is important and to practice language that keeps control with your loved one.
- To learn the technique of open-ended questions which facilitate getting to “yes” in difficult conversations.
- To name and claim your caregiver emotions that can make setting boundaries and asking for help difficult.
- Begin to fill out worksheets and answer the questions found at the end of each chapter.
Caregiving Challenges: Before you Become a Caregiver
Do you worry about your aging loved ones? Will you be their caregiver?
Based on many years as her mother’s caregiver, Deb Hallisey answers the questions: “Where do I start?” and “What do I do next?”. She concentrates on the four questions everyone needs to ask before becoming a caregiver. These four questions cover the major caregiving challenges: finances, healthcare, caregiving, safety and legal decisions. You will learn tips on communicating with your senior that will help determine if they really are “fine.”
What will it take to keep your loved one at home?
Your loved one wants to age in place. What does it really take to stay at home?
The challenge of aging in place involves a delicate balance of financial, safety and caregiving decisions that will change over time.
Deb Hallisey uses her personal experience of keeping her mother in their family home to answer the most common questions. What financial, health or caregiving factors can impact a care plan and the ability to stay at home? How will I recognize when the care plan needs to change? What community programs and business resources are available to help stay at home?
How to be a savvy social media user for healthcare information and caregiving support.
Do you wonder if the website you’re using for research is credible? Does caregiving make it difficult to get out of the house to meet with support groups?
Social media is an excellent resource for information, support and advocacy. In this program, Deb Hallisey walks you through using online communities, Facebook, Twitter and Instagram to illustrate what information and support is available on each platform. You will learn how to determine if a site is trustworthy and strategies for using social media in your caregiving journey.
For information on pricing please contact Deb:
firstname.lastname@example.org or 609-915-4570