Is there anything wrong with my response? On the surface no, because it’s true. If mom is healthy, looking forward to something and feels like she is contributing to our family, she is doing well. Which means my life has less stress, so I’m doing well. The problem is, it doesn’t answer the question. “How am I doing?” This automatic response means I’m measuring my mental, … [Read more...]
How Does Your Elder Find Purpose In Their Life?
"There is quality of life in the touch of a towel and the smell of detergent.” Eloy van Hal, Founder of The Hogeweyk. Caregivers, too often we act as if our senior can no longer contribute to life at home. But modified tasks and a little help may be all it takes for them to feel worthwhile. And that leads to a quality life. I had the privilege of hearing Eloy van Hal of … [Read more...]
The Art of Slow Caregiving – My Biggest Lesson After 5 Years as a Caregiver
"Ordinary People With Extraordinary Caregiving Experiences." I recently had the privilege of being interviewed for the "Eldercare Illuminated" podcast by Lenore Tracey. Lenore is Eldercare Practice Leader at Torchlight. During our time together, we touched on the many ways that slowing down as mom's caregiver has helped our relationship, changed the way we interact, and … [Read more...]
Caregiving Tips: When Your Elder Is Hard-Of-Hearing
And won’t wear hearing aids “For those of us who are gradually losing our hearing, it is often too much effort to keep up with a conversation, so we self-isolate. I find that most people mumble, speak too rapidly and use words without consonants. If people spoke with clarity, they would not feel like they had to shout – which makes what they are shouting distracting and even … [Read more...]
Don’t underestimate your elder’s ability to grow and change.
But you must be willing to grow and change as well. Can I tell you how proud I am of my mother? At 86, she is still learning and growing. Early one day I got a call from my cousin inviting us to an impromptu birthday celebration that night. The family was meeting at a restaurant right by mom (I live an hour away), so she offered to pick up my mother. I immediately went into … [Read more...]