Which in turn helps the caregiver. Beverly Nance is a mom, caregiver to her autistic daughter, an entrepreneur and a born puzzler. She has been doing jigsaw puzzles since her 20’s and loves big puzzles of 1000 pieces. Frames come first and then the middle. With space dedicated to puzzles, she can come back and finish one the next day. For Beverly, it is a form of meditation … [Read more...]
Lessons From An 89-Year-Old – how to sit quietly and just think.
Lately, I’ve noticed mom just sitting for long periods of time. I may have to call her more than once to get her attention and it scares me. This learned behavior comes from the couple of times when her blood sugar had dropped dangerously low. When I do get her attention, she seems confused and my mind immediately goes to, “Is this the start of dementia?” Jumping to … [Read more...]
How Can Caregivers Let Go of Feeling Judged? Another lesson learned from my dog.
We may feel judged by others, but we judge ourselves the most. Bear with me as I tell you the story of Tucker and his shin fracture. I was away for a weekend, meeting up with college friends that I had not seen in two years. We were able to plan for a weekend when I was not caring for mom. My neighbor, who is a dog sitter, was available to come stay with Tucker. In the past, … [Read more...]
Letters To Our Daughter – More About Life With Mom
A couple of weeks ago, I shared parts of a letter my dad wrote to me when I was in college. In it, he told the story of mom breaking a jar of spaghetti sauce while in the grocery store. At first she walked away from it, but then she went back to pull the coupon off the jar. Why she did that will make sense when dad tells the story about "The Coupon Volley." Enjoy! … [Read more...]
Caregivers Are Advocates, Champions And Activists For Our Caree. We must do the same for ourselves.
It is our time now. I don’t know about you, but I did not spend my time at home during the pandemic learning a new language, craft or getting fit. I’m a caregiver. I was just trying to keep my head above water. On top of the isolation and loneliness, mom had two wounds that needed to be cleared up, a severe eye infection and the pièce de resistance, a five-day hospital … [Read more...]