When you or someone close to you loses a loved one, it can be a challenging event to process. Here are some ways to help a loved one through grief.
Having a support system during any event in life is a great thing, but when you are dealing with grief following the passing of a loved one, many people may be hesitant to approach the topic. Some shy away from the opportunity and simply let the other grieve in silence alone. This isn’t healthy, no matter who is grieving. Here is how to help someone you love through grief.
Understand the Grieving Process
Everyone grieves differently, but everyone deserves to process their grief in a healthy way. Your loved ones should know you’re there for them and will help them understand the grieving process. When helping them, let your loved ones grieve in the way they feel is natural. If they cry, let them bellow out; don’t dehumanize them because they cannot control their emotions when you think it’s convenient to listen. There is also no set timeline of how long someone grieves. Grief can last anywhere from eighteen months to two years or even longer, depending on the person.
Think About What To Say To a Grieving Loved One
It’s difficult to speak to someone when a close loved one passes. We don’t know how they will react to the news. Do your best to listen to them and allow them to process their emotions first before saying something you may regret. Before approaching a loved one, follow these steps for help:
- Acknowledge them; let the person know you’re there for them.
- Express your concern and don’t keep any emotions bottled up inside. Doing so may make your loved one feel that you don’t care. Remind them that you are here for them in their time of need.
- Let your bereaved loved one talk about their loved one’s passing. If you are going through something similar, only share your own experience when necessary and if you believe it would help them. If they choose to sit in silence, join them. Sometimes, company is a good remedy for grieving loved ones.
Offer Some Help and Support Them
Aside from letting them know you care for them, offer to help them with shopping, housework, or anything to help get themselves active again. They might feel guilty for asking, so remind them that they are cared for and not a burden to anyone. Continue supporting them. Many grieve at different times, and some may never stop mourning.
Watch For Signs of Depression
Often, those who are grieving may develop clinical depressions. One wayto help someone you love through grief is to look out for any warning signs that they may be falling into a deep depression. A few signs to look for include difficulty with functioning with daily life, focusing on death, hallucinations, and other similar symptoms.
It can be difficult helping someone through grief, but taking it one day at a time will help remind your loved one that they are cared for and have a robust support system.
Disclaimer: The material in this blog is for educational purposes only. It is not intended to replace, nor does it replace, consulting with a physician, lawyer, accountant, financial planner or other qualified professional.