Yesterday was seven years ago that my dad died. Seven years. Some days it feels like yesterday that we would have breakfast together and read articles to one another while sharing the local paper. Some days it feels like he has been gone forever. I am grateful to have the original 12 letters my dad wrote to me my freshman year in college. There is something about holding … [Read more...]
Will You Have To Repay Your Mom’s Debt After Her Death?
Have you taken care of a family member or your parents and are worried about the deceased person’s debt? Will you have to repay your mother’s debt? Well, typically, you don’t inherit the debt of your parents or a family member unless you have cosigned on a loan or have taken out a credit card together. You are not liable to repay the debt, even if you’re the only … [Read more...]
Embrace is my touchstone word for 2022.
Like many people I no longer commit to a New Year's resolution. Instead I pick a touchstone word for the year. Sometimes it is based on how I hope the year will go and sometimes it is based on anticipating what is coming. I’m in the anticipation mode this year and the word is ‘Embrace.’ The dictionary defines embrace as: ‘To accept or support (a belief, theory, or change) … [Read more...]
I never promised mom… Then why do I feel so guilty?
When your head knows it’s the right decision, but your heart is breaking. One of my promises to myself when I became mom’s caregiver is that I would never promise her anything unless I was 100% sure I could deliver. It is why I never promised her I could always keep her in our family home. My expectation was that at some point she would need to be in a wheelchair and, given … [Read more...]
Hospital at Home. What is it and how does it work?
For family caregivers, the devil is in the details. The Hospital at Home model has been around since 1995, but in the time of COVID, it is gaining traction. Hospital at Home gives acute care that would normally be given in a hospital to patients in their homes. Generally, it includes intravenous therapy (mainly antibiotics), anticoagulation, wound care and chemotherapy … [Read more...]