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What To Do When Your Aging Parents Refuse Help

July 22, 2021 by Kate Romeo

What To Do When Your Aging Parents Refuse Help

There comes a time when you must discuss lifestyle changes with your parents, but you need to know what to do when your aging parents refuse help.

As your parents grow older, the likelihood of them suffering a fall or coming down with an illness increases significantly. For this reason, it’s important to ensure they have the care they need at a moment’s notice. You can’t always guarantee that you’ll be there when they need you, making assisted living an appealing option. But many older people can be resistant to the topic. So, it’s critical to know what to do when your aging parents refuse help.

Understand Why They Refuse the Help

Before anything, you need to gauge what their concerns are with accepting some form of assisted living. Open up the topic and hear out their issues with these lifestyle changes. Often, people come around to an idea once they air out all their grievances. But make sure not to interrupt them or try to lay their fears to rest too early. Frequent disruptions while they speak will only serve to frustrate them and make them think you’re not listening.

Give Them Options

Many people still believe that accepting assisted living means uprooting their life and moving to a retirement facility. That is not always the case, as there are more options available to those who need help. Let them know that contrary to their preconceived notions on the subject, there may be something tailored to them to accommodate their wishes.

In-Home Care

One popular decision many people make is accepting in-home care. There are various advantages to this style of assisted living, but chief among them is the greater independence it affords your parents. They can remain in their home with a medical professional occasionally checking on them. The frequency of these visits can change depending on necessity. 

Give Them Time To Digest the Information

After you listen to their concerns and respond to their problems, you may need to give them time to make a decision. It may take some time for them to come around to the idea. Knowing what to do when your aging parents refuse help involves letting them come to a conclusion on their own.

Don’t Be Aggressive in Your Talks

Aging is a difficult and scary process.  Furthermore, asking your parents to change their lifestyle completely is only adding to the burden. You need to be patient with them and show you sympathize with their situation. Going in demanding they need to change will only make them more adamant about refusing assistance.

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